I have difficulty telling lies - even when I should, like to spare someone's feelings. I can twist words up pretty good though. I just don't know how long I would be ABLE to keep the outside world from Jack. However, spending time with Raegan this first year (almost a whole year) I could see how at least year 1 it would be easy to just pretend all is normal and well. But the way she did tell him about the "real" world was like flooding him. I am surprised he took it as well as he did!
Ya - I think in that situation you have to do what you think is best for the child. In Ma's mind, there was a real possibility that they would never escape. And she knew how much she missed "Outside" so she was probably "protecting" Jack from missing those things as well... I'm not sure what she did was protect him though.
I agree. I think she did it for Jack. But there was probably some selfishness in it as well. If Jack had known about the outside, he would have been constantly battering her with questions about it and why they didn't just leave. A child that young doesn't understand.
I think that it was a coping mechanism for both her and Jack. It would be hard thinking about what is out there and not being able to have it. It would just make it easier to deal with if it were a fairy tale. However, I do think that lying was not the answer. There are other ways of dealing with those things.
I have difficulty telling lies - even when I should, like to spare someone's feelings. I can twist words up pretty good though. I just don't know how long I would be ABLE to keep the outside world from Jack. However, spending time with Raegan this first year (almost a whole year) I could see how at least year 1 it would be easy to just pretend all is normal and well. But the way she did tell him about the "real" world was like flooding him. I am surprised he took it as well as he did!
ReplyDeleteYa - I think in that situation you have to do what you think is best for the child. In Ma's mind, there was a real possibility that they would never escape. And she knew how much she missed "Outside" so she was probably "protecting" Jack from missing those things as well... I'm not sure what she did was protect him though.
ReplyDeleteI agree. I think she did it for Jack. But there was probably some selfishness in it as well. If Jack had known about the outside, he would have been constantly battering her with questions about it and why they didn't just leave. A child that young doesn't understand.
ReplyDeleteI think that it was a coping mechanism for both her and Jack. It would be hard thinking about what is out there and not being able to have it. It would just make it easier to deal with if it were a fairy tale. However, I do think that lying was not the answer. There are other ways of dealing with those things.
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